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Mom. She-hack. Armchair astronomer. Buddhist.

A nice day on Mars

For those of you who aren’t keeping up on space news, some neat stuff happened this week.

First, NASA’s space probe Messenger shot back images of planet Mercury that revealed a mysterious crater that scientists are calling “the spider.” I don’t know all of the details, but apparently Mercury and our moon aren’t as similar as once was thought. (I never realized how similar they were until my house became overrun with myriad cardboard and plastic planets – we’re always getting Mercury and the moon mixed up around here.)

And, pictured here is an image posted by The Planetary Society blog of a smiley-face crater on Mars. It was taken by a camera that’s cataloging the surface of the red planet in super high resolution from the Mars Reconnaissance Orbiter.

Declan was already asleep when I found this post tonight. I can’t wait to show it to him in the morning. It looks like one of his drawings.

Medicine mantras

Today, hundreds of people are pulling for Whymommy, a scientist and the mother of two young boys (ages one and three), who has candidly, bravely shared her struggle with Inflammatory Breast Cancer online. Dozens of people have joined Team Whymommy to build a “wall of support” for her over the last seven months, but all good wishes from strangers (or, as she calls them, new friends) are welcome at her blog. She is undergoing a double mastectomy today and her husband will be reading all of the comments and well-wishes that are left online for her as she recovers from the surgery. The hope, after weeks of chemo, is that there will be clear margins around the cancer, so that it may all be removed safely from her body.

Also, a woman who gives an unbelievable amount of time and energy to the Buddhist temple where I have learned so much will be waiting through her mother’s extensive surgery today. The doctors will be trying to find and remove multiple tumors from her abdomen in a procedure that will take several hours. Some members of the sangha will recite the Medicine Buddha mantra, Chenrezig’s compassion mantra or the Tashi Prayer and dedicate the merit to her family.

Whatever your belief system, try and make a little space in your thoughts and hearts for these women and the people that love them.

House key

In this case, I mean this definition of “key”:

A systematic explanation of abbreviations, symbols, etc., used in a dictionary, map, etc.

Having a toddler means that you likely have a few words or phrases that have meaning around your own home, but would completely confound strangers. Here are a few of ours:

Pop bottles = Children who are acting silly

Monkeypuppy = Meerkat

String theory music = classical music

Planets noodles = Israeli couscous

Have any of your own house language to share, either from your kids or from your own childhood?

Mars and the moon hold court

A year ago, if you’d asked me to look up in the sky and tell you which of the distant dots were planets and which ones were stars, I wouldn’t have been able to do it. I’ve had a few wee hour adventures into the farmlands to watch a meteor shower, stared at a comet through a telescope and traced Orion’s Belt and the Big Dipper in the sky with my finger, but that’s the extent of my astronomical prowess.

So much of our world revolves around space now. The other morning, after we watched Declan slip planets from a cardboard solar system in and out of their box Dan asked me, “have we had a day in the last year where we didn’t hear the word Jupiter before noon?” I had to say no.

Our love of Jupiter runs deep. But we have affection for all of the planets, whether they are in books, on mobiles or on television documentaries. At a summer festival last year, friends looked on as Declan cried when Venus vanished behind a cloud.

Tonight, we were out running errands after sunset, and looked up at the waxing Gibbous moon in the darkening blue sky from the Sears parking lot in the bitter cold air. There weren’t any stars visible, but there was one planet, shining brightly right next to the moon. It was so vivid, I guessed it was Venus, but I came home and checked the Sky Calendar, which told me it was Mars. The three of us stood in there, pointing and oohing and making our guesses until we couldn’t stand the cold any longer. (According to that link, there is a “wind child” advisory here.)

If you are fortunate enough to be in warmer climes with clear skies tonight, or have a great North-facing window, be sure to tell Mars hello for us.

Momufacturing

Declan snuggled his head up against my stomach last night.

“I used to live in here, I used to live in your belly,” he told me.

“That’s true,” I replied. “You were so tiny, and then you grew and grew until you were just too big to live in there anymore. ”

He hugged my midsection again, then put his hand on it, a bit of realization striking his face. Then he asked a question.

“What else can you make in your belly?”

Can you read this?

For the past few days, Declan has had an insatiable appetite for books. He’ll want to read eight, nine, twelve in a row. Some are stories and others are just picture books that let him identify shapes, animals and emotions or count vegetables and fruits. Every fifth one is, naturally, about space.

But he’s also taken to pulling art books off the shelf. Marc Chagall is a favorite of Dan’s – a fact that is well known to several friends and family members – so we have a number of books in several sizes with reproductions of the work. Declan pulls them off the shelf and brings them to me, usually presenting them with a Vanna White wave.

“Mommy, can we read this?” He asks. “Because this painting is so, so beautiful.”

My mother taught me to read paintings in Manhattan museums, often by standing me in front of one, covering my eyes with her hands, then lifting them and asking me quickly “what do you see first?” We would talk about what the colors, images, shadows and textures might mean, what was happening, the feelings of the beings and objects depicted on the canvas, even which ways the artist’s tools might have been used to create a particular mark.

Every day, Declan’s ability to read a painting is growing exponentially. I’m looking forward to our next visit with his Giga (my mom) at the museum.

I like failure

Failure Magazine, that is. I guess an argument could be made that I also like actual failure, since I’ve worked in the volatile field of print media for the bulk of my career. I’ve been on intimate terms with layoffs and shut-downs far more often than I would have liked.

What I enjoy about the online magazine is that it reminds us how often scientists, artists, political movements, entrepreneurs and others failed before they made major breakthroughs.

One of today’s failures of the day is the reminder that the U.S. House of Representatives turned down a proposal to give women the right to vote on on this date in 1915.

Five years later, the 19th amendment was finally ratified, although it came fourteen years after the death of one of its best-known champions, Susan B. Anthony. Had she lived to see the day that her long life of work on suffrage finally paid off, she would have been 100 years old.

You never know what tenacity and a little faith might yield.

Life soundtrack: Beck, Mellow Gold, “Loser”
Beck - Mellow Gold - Loser

Someone to watch over me

My son has been busting out with mad sweetness for the past 24 hours. Although he asserted his masculinity by roaring along with some despairing OSU football fans last night for the first half of the game, when we came home, he sweetly decided he should brush my hair before bedtime. Then he kissed me on the forehead and said “Good night, mommy.”

This morning, he noticed the tiniest cut on my finger.

“Is this a boo-boo, mommy?”

“Yes. Just a little one. It doesn’t hurt,” I said.

“I’ll go and get you a bandage.”

And off he went to the bathroom, foraging for the band-aids, which were stored in a high cabinet that he had no prayer of reaching on his own. I tried to tell him that I didn’t need one, but he insisted until I brought down the box, pulled one out and helped him curl it around my pinky.

“There you go. Is that better now?” He asked.

Seeing his desire to be a caretaker, to be useful and kind, my heart lurched a little.

“It’s so much better now, thank you Declan,” I said, hugging him tightly, kissing his forehead.

“You’re welcome,” he answered.

Do I really have to subject him to (or share him with) the rest of the world?